Thoughts from A Therapist // All I Want for Christmas is the Perfect Relationship

Thoughts from A Therapist // All I Want for Christmas is the Perfect Relationship
  • How active have you been in your search for a perfect partner? How did that work — or not work — for you?
  • How good are you at letting people come to you? Can you relax and let things unfold when you're dating someone?
  • What are your standards for your perfect partner? Are they the same or different than your standards for yourself?
  • How similar have you been to past (or your present) partner(s)? How have you been different?
  • What patterns do you see in your past relationships?  What do you see as your biggest obstacles in meeting your perfect partner?
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Loving Someone Long-Term and Long-Distance

Loving Someone Long-Term and Long-Distance

Andrew, the wonderful human I get to do this relationship with, lives in Toronto, Ontario, and yours truly lives in Richmond, Virginia. If you do the math, we live about 600 miles from one another, and the first nine months of our relationship we lived closer to two thousand miles from one another because Andrew lived in Edmonton, Alberta. It was not what either of us planned for our lives, but something about what we saw in one another clicked with each of us. We were both kind of oblivious and not on the hunt for a partner, but things switched quickly, and now we can’t get rid of each other. Despite the distance, we’re like most other couples; it’s just that our quality time is spent through texts and FaceTime as opposed to movies and nights on the couch.

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Autostraddle Stories // Love and Mental Heath

Autostraddle Stories // Love and Mental Heath

When I was 16 I explained to my partner how emotions feel to me. Physical, like warm sun on cold skin or kissing someone for the first time and smiling the whole way through. Overwhelming, like drowning in a shallow pool and forgetting how to walk, let alone swim. Beautiful, like seeing the ocean for the first time and knowing you’ll never forget the look of the sunset against the waves. Being bipolar means falling in love with everything and, just as easily, resenting it. Falling out of love.

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