Real Couples // A Home-Grown Wedding: Erik + Ryan

Real Couples // A Home-Grown Wedding: Erik + Ryan

In 2014, Erik officiated the first legal same-sex ceremony in Wisconsin. The next day, he and his partner Ryan came back to the courthouse to get legally married themselves. It took almost a year for all of the legal and political dust to settle when the Supreme Court finally weighed in making same-sex weddings the law of the land. After this momentous ruling, Erik and Ryan decided they would like for their family and friends to to take part in their marriage as well. Their ceremony was a simple and classy affair focused on their family and friends.

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Eating Breakfast with My Trolls

Eating Breakfast with My Trolls

They say you shouldn’t feed your “trolls,” but there I was on a random Thursday morning eating pancakes with mine. My troll — let’s call him Tyler — had recently made it his mission to let me know how wrong and dangerous I was and to make sure that everyone else knew as well. What masochistic desire had led me to invite “Tyler” to breakfast? I mulled over this question for three hours as I shared food and coffee with Tyler. Rather than argue or attack, I asked lots of questions about his life, hopes, and dreams. It’s harder to hate over pancakes. It's harder to dehumanize when you’re making eye contact. My only goal was that Tyler might see me as a human being instead of a Twitter handle.

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