How Instagram Encourages Comparison and Worsens Anxiety and Depression

How Instagram Encourages Comparison and Worsens Anxiety and Depression

As a S.A.D. sufferer, summer is typically my jam. There is plenty of sun, which means plenty of Vitamin D. I thrive at the beach, and I live in jean shorts. It’s really my ideal state. Except that depression and anxiety know no seasons, and comparison isn’t reserved for the cold months. Recently, an artist I follow on Instagram posted an illustration and said, “is reverse SAD a thing?” I always look to summer to lighten my moods, but I find sometimes, like this summer, specifically, I have spent a lot of time feeling pretty shitty about what I don’t possess or what I’m not doing, or about the beach pics I am not sharing with the Instagram followers I don’t have. Because, suffice it to say, nothing is sufficient in the comparison game.

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Dealing with Depression as an Entrepreneur

Dealing with Depression as an Entrepreneur

As an entrepreneur, I spend a lot of time alone. I also spend a lot of time on social media and on websites that do similar things to mine. On days like today, when I’m feeling a special kind of self-loathing and masochism, I like to troll the internet for everyone and everything that is doing better than me. Comparison is not necessarily the thief of my joy today, just my sanity. So, the downward spiral begins. Because I have so, so much to do, but I actually cannot get it done. So, rather than do what’s best and step away from work, I force myself to sit here.

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On Sex // The Myth of Lesbian Bed Death

On Sex // The Myth of Lesbian Bed Death

The problem is this—there is not much out there in the way of information on LGBTQ+ relationships, especially when it comes to sex. There is no lesbian version of Cosmo on newsstands with headlines like “What Are Her Deepest Desires: 5 Things That Will Drive Her Wild!” (That is, like, an eerily accurate headline considering I made it up on the spot…) But that doesn’t mean that queer relationships don’t need some guidance, too. Let’s take lesbian bed death for instance. Is it real? Who even knows! Actually, that’s a lie. I do know, and I will be covering that very topic soon! But the point is, we have a bunch of stereotypes to base our relationships off of! Gay men are sluts and never make it to the second date, lesbians U-Haul and stop having sex in long-term relationships. WTF? That’s not helpful.

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