5 Reasons Why Bride-Centrism in Weddings Is Hurting ALL of Us

5 Reasons Why Bride-Centrism in Weddings Is Hurting ALL of Us

Carly Romeo, and her team at Carly Romeo & Co., wants us to envision a world where all people looking to get married get honored, celebrated, and respected as individuals, and the bride-centrism that we commonly see in the wedding industry isn’t letting us (and our unions) be great. Here are just a few reasons why.

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Register for Social Justice // Fundraising for a Nonprofit on your Wedding Day

Register for Social Justice // Fundraising for a Nonprofit on your Wedding Day

One year ago, my now-husband and I chose our wedding venue. A month later, a man who ran a presidential campaign on a platform of hate won by a wide margin in that town. Like many others, we wanted to mobilize resources for social issues put at risk by the election. Our wedding would be the largest set of consumer decisions that we would influence in a turbulent 2017, so we first set our sights on how to design a wedding day that celebrated our commitment, while also making a statement about what we stand for.

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Operation Sequin // How I Proposed to My Boyfriend

Operation Sequin // How I Proposed to My Boyfriend

My name is Nelle, and this is the story of how I came to propose to my beau Matt via a surprise, bedazzled, bikerideflashmob engagement party with 150 of our closest friends and family from around the world.  

Let’s start at the beginning. I’ve never wanted a traditional wedding: the expenses, the material waste, the long odds of success, the celebrations of heteronormativity and wealth, conveying women as property, etc.

I’m bi, and like most people, have a tenuous relationship with monogamy. I have always planned to queer my marriage. When I was six, I told my mom I would like to marry Ellen Degeneres, and I asked her to make the introduction. For most of my life, I assumed I would partner with some dreamy person and that we’d pack up our Subaru and elope.

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Kin Aesthetics // Excommunicate Me from the Church of Social Justice

Kin Aesthetics // Excommunicate Me from the Church of Social Justice

There is a particularly aggressive strand of social justice activism weaving in and out of my Seattle community that has troubled me, silenced my loved ones, and turned away potential allies. I believe in justice. I believe in liberation. I believe it is our duty to obliterate white supremacy, anti-blackness, cisheteropatriarchy, capitalism, and imperialism. And I also believe there should be openness around the tactics we use and ways our commitments are manifested. Beliefs and actions are too often conflated with each other, yet questioning the latter does not renege the former. As a Cultural Studies scholar, I am interested in the ways that culture does the work of power. What then, is the culture of activism, and in what ways are activists restrained by it? To be clear, I’m only one person who doesn’t know everything, and I’m open to revisions and learning. But as someone who has spent the last decade recovering from a forced conversion to evangelical Christianity, I’m seeing a disturbing parallel between religion and activism in the presence of dogma:

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These Are the Best Feminist-Friendly Songs to Put on Your Wedding Playlist

These Are the Best Feminist-Friendly Songs to Put on Your Wedding Playlist

You and your fiancé are ready for the big day: You've found the perfect pair of locally-sourced rings, your outfits are on point, and any sexist traditions have been snuffed. Now, what about the dance playlist? No need to sift through your Spotify in vain—your song choices can be both feminist and rockin'. 

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Woke Wednesday // Meet Richmond Photographer Nadiya Nacorda of Imani Fine Art Photography

Woke Wednesday // Meet Richmond Photographer Nadiya Nacorda of Imani Fine Art Photography

If you find yourself questioning something that feels inappropriate or abusive, then it probably is. Do not "use" an interracial couple in a shoot just to make your portfolio more diverse so you can start seeming more inclusive to the industry. Start first with yourself. Take a step back, and look at the inner circle of people you see every month. Who are they? What do you all talk about? Are you discussing issues related to populations you have no experience with? Do you participate in tokenizing? Overall, if you share these values and want to start out in the industry, double and then triple-check yourself and your own life. Because if you're still participating in social practices that are damaging or harmful toward marginalized groups in this country, whether it be consciously or subconsciously, then frankly you haven't done the work.

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Catalyst Travels to Brooklyn for the Love Union

Catalyst Travels to Brooklyn for the Love Union

Have you met Amy Shackelford of Modern Rebel? She owns an awesome alternative event planning company in Brooklyn that partners with nonprofits. That means Modern Rebel donates money to domestic violence, homelessness, and education-based organizations every time her team coordinates an event. She also shares our feminist values, and she invited Catalyst to join her on a panel about feminism and weddings at this year's Love Union, a dreamy week-long staycation and education opportunity for wedding professionals in NYC. It's hosted by 501 Union, a gorgeous venue for weddings and events in the Gowanus neighborhood.

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Let Me Ruin This For You // How PepsiCo Failed to Properly Exploit a Movement for Money

Let Me Ruin This For You // How PepsiCo Failed to Properly Exploit a Movement for Money

There’s probably a Pepsi executive out there right now, shaking his head over a half-full decanter, wondering how such a dependable method of advertising failed him. Maybe he’s sitting in a dark room, projecting a YouTube compilation of the 2017 Super Bowl commercials onto the wall, thinking to himself, “What about Budweiser’s pro-immigration commercial? What about Coke’s anti-wall spot? Have we not made it clear that we too stand with the youths? We also believe in music and conversations and hijabs!”

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Let Me Ruin This For You // Beauty and the Beast

Let Me Ruin This For You // Beauty and the Beast

That Hollywood found it necessary to give the world a live-action remake of Beauty and the Beast surprised few and excited many. The classic fable that teaches children it doesn’t matter what you look like if you’re a boy is a beloved favorite of little girls past and present—regardless of whether they came of age before marital rape was outlawed in all 50 states or in an era where the New York Post routinely terrorizes single, college-educated women living in cities.

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This Weather is Fucking Awesome and I’m Not Sorry

This Weather is Fucking Awesome and I’m Not Sorry

There have been an awful lot of people on the Internet lately denying themselves the unadulterated joy of summer in February, so I’m here with a counterpoint: This weather is fucking awesome and I’m not sorry.

A few facts:

  1. It’s 69 degrees.

  2. It’s February.

  3. The human race is finished.

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