The Catalyst Wedding Review Podcast // Episode 5: Gilmore Girls "Kill Me Now" with Amy Shackelford

The Catalyst Wedding Review Podcast // Episode 5: Gilmore Girls "Kill Me Now" with Amy Shackelford

In this week's episode, Jen sits down with feminist Brooklyn wedding planner Amy Shackelford of Modern Rebel and Co. to review Season 1, Episode 3 of Gilmore Girls "Kill Me Now" where the Independence Inn is host to a double wedding where twin brides marry twin grooms. They talk their love of Gilmore Girls, mother daughter relationships as they relate to weddings, and the unfortunate ableism, homophobia, and white feminism that exists throughout the show. But most importantly, they talk about Amy's fear of swans and her love of Shania Twain.

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Bridecentrism, Bridezillas, and "The Best Day of Your Life"

Bridecentrism, Bridezillas, and "The Best Day of Your Life"

The wedding industry didn’t grow to be worth $54 billion because Americans just love marriage so much. No way — marriage is cheap! We’re talking marriage license fees and gas money; you can get married for less than $100. The wedding industry grew to be so enormous because it is built on one big lie: a wedding is the best day of a woman’s life. Maybe it’s not a lie as much as it is a fantasy that we are socialized to embrace from day one. They slap that pink cap on your head, and next thing you know you’re living a Disney-themed childhood in which your career goals amount to being a glitter princess and a mommy to a brood of doll babies. But who will pay for your pink ball gowns and tea parties for your woodland friends? Oh, you know who: Prince Charming.

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A Revolution that Begins with Cake

A Revolution that Begins with Cake

At a coffee bar off Washington Square Park, the stranger seated next to me noticed my gift bag. “Going to a baby shower?” he asked. “No, I’m a wedding planner, actually. Headed to a rehearsal soon.” “Oh, god. That sounds intense. Does that gig make you never want to get married?” I paused, unable to give him a straight answer. The truth: the answer was far too complicated to get into over an iced tea. I’d need at least a shot (maybe several) of espresso.

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