Yearning for a successful wedding or to at least not get kicked out of more than one wedding party, I started studying how to be a bride and the history of Western wedding traditions. That’s when I uncovered how wedding traditions were originally designed to pressure women into becoming mothers, to erase their individuality for the sake of family, to give men power over them, and to discriminate against anyone who wasn’t a white, cis heterosexual.Read More
Nobody, including Arie, knows anything about wrestling except Bekah, who cannot stop talking about the 10 seconds she watched of the WWE in 2009. She is featured prominently in the confessionals, giving America her manic take on everything going on around her. Listening to Bekah speak is like being inflicted by a mental Cruciatus curse — you aren't sure what's going on but you would do anything to make it stop.Read More
7 ways to mitigate the frivolity of planning a big-ass party when neo-Nazis are marching, the planet is melting, and POTUS is leading the Confederate States of America with “alternative facts.”Read More
I want to challenge others to remove “single parent” from their vocabulary — or at least challenge this false narrative that we have about single parenthood and deconstruct why we are subconsciously so set on the two parent norm. I don’t think it’s a word we need to “take back,” but I think we need to stop emphasizing the traditional two parent family when we use it and recognize who it hurts. When we use the term parent, we are becoming inclusive of all parents and not emphasizing the stigma that comes along with the word. Yes, I am single. Yes, I’m also a parent. But please don’t keep calling me a single parent. It’s not my key identity, and I am beautifully just so much more.Read More
A few months before the wedding, I started receiving texts and emails from members of the wedding party, asking what I wanted to do for a bachelorette weekend. Since I had been using Pinterest to find wedding inspiration, I started searching there for ideas.
After an initial search of "bachelorette party ideas," I quickly realized that Pinterest—or any other mainstream source—would not be the place for me to plan the feminist weekend with friends I had been dreaming about.Read More
This photo represents me at my core. It isn't just a pretty picture, it's the promotion photo for the debut of my online boutique SeVIIn Days on etsy.com. I make handmade feminist choker necklaces. It's me pursuing my dream of being a designer through this baby step. I shot this at the Don Cesar, the famous pink hotel in my hometown of St. Petersburg, Florida. It was a dream come true for me, as I grew up admiring the hotel since I was a kid. And I was committed. It took me hours to glue those petals one by one to my skin! And two days for all the glue to come off!Read More
We've come a long way since Rachel had 25 boyfriends, but quite frankly, I think it might be too soon to revisit that slice of history. Unfortunately, my opinion is trumped by a multimillion dollar corporation hoping to make a buck or two off of human suffering so in we go!
Tonight, we are re-introduced to several boy feuds: that of Blaine and Lucas, that of Josiah and Iggy, that of Lee and Kenny, that of Lucas and reality, that of Lee and admitting one's racist beliefs, and that of Dean and pubertRead More
You and your fiancé are ready for the big day: You've found the perfect pair of locally-sourced rings, your outfits are on point, and any sexist traditions have been snuffed. Now, what about the dance playlist? No need to sift through your Spotify in vain—your song choices can be both feminist and rockin'.Read More
I was definitely sipping the Kool-Aid growing up, thinking somehow I was an exception to the rule. That changed a few years ago after a horrible experience with some police officers. It was the October before the Mike Brown shooting. I thought a middle class upbringing, pearls, and dresses were going to save me. But I learned that to some people, all I ever will be is black and a problem. I hated it. I hated the microaggressions I denied were problems. It was really an unlearning of a bunch of different things. It was being honest about how I felt as a black woman in a world that hates black women. It grew into advocating for everyone else who gets sidelined into the margins. I learned to listen and I learned to speak up and out.Read More
If you find yourself questioning something that feels inappropriate or abusive, then it probably is. Do not "use" an interracial couple in a shoot just to make your portfolio more diverse so you can start seeming more inclusive to the industry. Start first with yourself. Take a step back, and look at the inner circle of people you see every month. Who are they? What do you all talk about? Are you discussing issues related to populations you have no experience with? Do you participate in tokenizing? Overall, if you share these values and want to start out in the industry, double and then triple-check yourself and your own life. Because if you're still participating in social practices that are damaging or harmful toward marginalized groups in this country, whether it be consciously or subconsciously, then frankly you haven't done the work.Read More
Elizabeth had thought she would never marry. It happened for other people but she hadn’t believed it would happen for her. For a long time she wouldn’t even let herself think about it. She kept the whole idea in a locked box in a locked room in a locked house on a gated street in a far off town she would never let herself visit.
But here was Stacy’s hand, cupped gently around her shoulder, under her shirt. As of that morning, Stacy was her wife. Even better: As of that morning, Elizabeth was Stacy’s wife.Read More
Then they enacted wedding ceremonies from three different eras — the 1700s, the 1950s, and the present — with costume changes for each. At the end of each ceremony, a certificate was handed to Levana that said: “You are now a full woman,” with an asterisk — the asterisk was “pending children.”Read More
Welcome back to The Bachelor, a show where one man navigates the rocky waters of romance against the backdrop of a crumbling nation state.
Before we begin, I want to bring to your attention to a tragic coincidence of which I have heretofore been ignorant: Waukesha, Wisconsin, Nick Viall’s Middle American hometown, is the very place where two pre-teenage girls were convicted of a gruesome murder attempt in the name of a scary monster called Slenderman.Read More
It felt good to see so much of the country show up in opposition to the inauguration. The current administration, and the fact that Trump has even gotten this far, has been making people question their sanity. So this was like temporarily waking from a bad dream. Being able to photograph it, to record the massive turnout, felt like a way to reassure each other that this was real, we are real, and that we are going to continue to show up and resist.Read More
Kanayo Adibe is a DC photographer who attended the Women's March this past weekend, and this is the march through his eyes: "How do I explain this experience? 3-hour long queues for metro passes, delayed trains, full parking lots and garages, streets packed with people like sardines, but most importantly UNITY. It was an overwhelming experience; to see sooo many people come together for a single cause was mind-blowing. We should do this more often; the world would be a better place. Here are a few highlights of the day from my eyes."Read More
Welcome back to The Bachelor, the show that takes place in the United States of America and definitely not in a country where each year 30 children are asked to murder each other for The People’s entertainment until only one is left standing. That being said, Happy Belated Day of Patriotic Devotion. I hope you all spent it immersed in a bathtub full of vodka listening to your favorite acapella version of God Bless America on repeat.Read More
Many still shy away from things that are “magical” or “witchy” because we have been trained to fear such things since literally the moment people stepped off the ships in the New World. In reality, witchcraft and magic have a long history of women attempting to better themselves and their society and being punished for it — something I think a lot of modern feminists can relate to.Read More
If she had chosen someone black, someone wealthier than her, someone, or anyone, else, there would still be commentary about it. There would still be outrage. The longer I've worked in this world, the more I realize that the wedding industry has little to do with weddings and everything to do with a public pronouncement of a woman's worth. Most wedding media enforces it; the whitest, slimmest, blondest, most feminine women deserve the gigantic rings, the most lavish productions, and most deserving partners (usually your run-of-the-mill dude-bro). That's who graces the covers and the ads that drive what I consider unnecessary hype.Read More