Want to Be Gender Fabulous on Your Wedding Day?

Want to Be Gender Fabulous on Your Wedding Day?

Weddings often heighten the traditional performance of gender, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Let the idea of performance empower you to rewrite, reclaim, or reinvent gender roles to express your unique identity. 

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Kin Aesthetics // Thinking Beyond Marriage

Kin Aesthetics // Thinking Beyond Marriage

By making what felt like my first adult decision, I had hopped on an escalator and couldn’t get off. We grew to love each other, and I wasn’t miserable. Yet I increasingly wondered, is this it?

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6 Ways to Have a More Trans-Inclusive Wedding

6 Ways to Have a More Trans-Inclusive Wedding

Trans people have always existed and will always exist regardless of official documentation. Full stop. So what can you do to make your wedding more welcoming to your trans and gender nonconforming guests?

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Real Couples // A Queer Appalachian Wedding: Peter + Hannah

Real Couples // A Queer Appalachian Wedding: Peter + Hannah

"Appalachia is our homeland. It’s where we first met, it’s where I began my transgender journey, it’s where we found a queer community that taught us how to radically love and be loved, it’s the smell of the mountain air, the clean crystal creeks, and the raw beauty of the fall foliage, so it was very easy for us to choose that location for our wedding. Asheville, being a world renowned wedding destination, was a little outside of our budget, but after a lot of internet sleuthing we came across a perfect venue just a hop over the border in Trade, Tennessee. White Fence Farm was the whole package: beautiful outdoor space for the ceremony, covered barn and kitchen for catering and reception, covered stage for DJ and dancing, a large fire pit, and even a farmhouse and a couple airstreams on the property that slept nearly all of our wedding party, and the price was unbeatable. But the real showstopper was the view. Located in a small valley right in the middle of the Appalachian mountains, the rolling hills loomed on all sides, and we planned it just right so that our wedding weekend coincided with peak leaf colors throughout the region. We were planning a Tennessee wedding from our couch in Austin, Texas, so putting the deposit down on the farm without having seen it was a huge risk. Turns out, we couldn’t have dreamed a more perfect setting.

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Real Couples // A Stylish, Woodsy LGBTQ+ Wedding: Mack + Jeanne

Real Couples // A Stylish, Woodsy LGBTQ+ Wedding: Mack + Jeanne

After meeting and falling in love in D.C. while on deployment, Mack brought Jeanne back to Cincinnati to continue their love story. And so, on a warm, spring day, adoring family and friends near and far traveled to witness Mack and Jeanne wed in an intimate ceremony nestled in the woods. Light poured in through the trees, shined onto the couple, and illuminated their faces during this mystical moment. Jeanne’s mother performed a chant ritual bringing goodness, gratitude, and love into the space. The ceremony concluded with handwritten vows and a joyful exit. Back at the barn, Jeanne’s sister presented a slideshow of the story of Mack and Jeanne, filling the reception with laughter and the happiest tears. The evening ended with a gorgeous golden sunset, and a dancing celebration.

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Debunking Bigotry // The Trans Military Ban

Debunking Bigotry // The Trans Military Ban

Besides waking up on Wednesday to the news that our five-time draft dodger and commander-in-chief cowardly went to Twitter to announce his position to ban transgender individuals from the military, a lot of us also woke up to gross misinformation from our colleagues, friends, and family. I decided to debunk some of the claims that have been made in defense of Trump’s decision in hopes that the next time you or someone you love is confronted with these excuses you will be able to shut them down.

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Real Couples // A Day in the Life of Lovers: Bonnie + Vince

Real Couples // A Day in the Life of Lovers: Bonnie + Vince

This session melts my heart for a few reasons. First of all, I had the opportunity to really get to know a friend from school and meet her boyfriend—something that wouldn’t have happened otherwise if we didn’t all share a passion for photography. At our initial meeting, they began to explain how different they both are but how great their relationship works. They both agreed that once I saw their apartment, everything would make sense. And it did.

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