Kin Aesthetics // Thinking Beyond Marriage

Kin Aesthetics // Thinking Beyond Marriage

By making what felt like my first adult decision, I had hopped on an escalator and couldn’t get off. We grew to love each other, and I wasn’t miserable. Yet I increasingly wondered, is this it?

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Queer + Christian // Love, Marriage and Half Year Celebrations!

Queer + Christian // Love, Marriage and Half Year Celebrations!

Being the kid at heart that I am, in addition to celebrations marking a full year of things, I also love celebrating halfs, and last month was the half anniversary of our wedding — one and a half years married ya’ll!!!  Throw confetti, release the unicorns, and let Kool & The Gang in to “Celebrate good times, come on!”

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Adapting to the Ordinary // For Better or Worse: The Reality of America’s Safety Net Programs for Married Couples with Disabilities

Adapting to the Ordinary // For Better or Worse: The Reality of America’s Safety Net Programs for Married Couples with Disabilities

The marriage penalty also affects non-disabled couples too. If you or a spouse become disabled while married, a couple must spend-down their assets in order to have the government provide basic needs indefinitely. Financial situations can be so dire, couples pursue divorce just to qualify, allowing the abled-bodied spouse to keep some of their assets. Divorce is a reality that no one should have to face because they got injured or sick.

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Asking for Permission to Marry

Asking for Permission to Marry

Once upon a time, a gentleman caller asked my grandpa for my aunt's hand in marriage. Grandpa asked him what he thought about my aunt working after marriage, and the dude said he hadn't thought of it. My grandpa kindly redirected the frat boy to suggest that he might want to talk to my aunt more before he proposed to her.

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Real Couples // 50 Years Together: Alva + Alvin

Real Couples // 50 Years Together: Alva + Alvin

My grandparents really are my role models for love. They have taught me that no matter what, love will always win. My grandparents have been together for over 50 years! They married, separated for a few years, and remarried again. Even with their separation they still stood by each other's side and continued to love deeply. Ever since they met, they knew they were each other's person. No matter what, they have to be with each other. They really are a cute couple too. They accidentally dress alike...almost everyday. They will say it's an accident, although I'm sure my grandpa plans his outfits after my grandma has laid hers out and goes to shower. He will swear he got dressed first though. When my grandma is out of town, we have to force my grandpa to eat because he forgets without her around. Their need for each other strengthens my belief in the gift of love and how it can truly empower us all. The way they still always hold hands and steal quick kisses from each other when they think no one is looking gives me life. They are a couple to look up to. :)

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Millennial Marriage: Thirty with Roommates

Millennial Marriage: Thirty with Roommates

For the majority of my adult life, I have lived with roommates with the exception of the year before Adam and I got married and the year after.We made the mistake of renting an apartment that was too expensive for our budget in central Washington, D.C., which promptly entered us into the “yopro” rat race of working to make rent. We say now that we are grateful for that expensive lesson: for us, a simpler life is a happier life.

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Where To Find Catalyst: With These Rings in Washington

Where To Find Catalyst: With These Rings in Washington

I try to live a pretty low-impact life both at home and in my studio practice. Materials used in jewelry can be incredibly harsh on the earth and so many of the people who live in places where metal and stones are mined. The jewelry industry tends to make it kind of hard to make informed decisions about these things. So in my business I consider it my responsibility to be transparent with my clients and supply metals that are one hundred percent recycled and gemstones that have been ethically sourced, lab grown or recycled. 

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Growing up Southern: Reconciling Marriage & Feminism

Growing up Southern: Reconciling Marriage & Feminism

Around the age of 13 in the midst of struggling through adolescent woes, I started to realize that not only did I not want a Disney dream wedding; I didn’t really want a wedding at all. Growing up in the South, this was quite the dissenting opinion. My parents were born and bred Yankees from Pittsburgh, so perhaps their northern sensibilities played a role, but I was mostly raised in the South. I considered myself a Southern girl, if not quite a Southern belle. Southern girls were meant to have one future plan: find the perfect gentleman, get married, and start having kids. I didn’t want any of those things.

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