Real Bodies // Kaity's Boudoir Session and Her Journey to Self Love

Real Bodies // Kaity's Boudoir Session and Her Journey to Self Love

I’ll say it until I’m blue in the face — if you make one investment in yourself in your lifetime, make it boudoir. Don’t wait until you lose that last 20lbs, or until you get rid of the cellulite on your ass. Don’t do it for your partner. Don’t do it for valentines. Do it for you.

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Three Easy Yoga Poses to Erase Wedding Stress! // WedWell

Three Easy Yoga Poses to Erase Wedding Stress! // WedWell

Sometimes the day gets the best of you and you're exhausted, need a nap, or are too stressed to even sit still! Whether the stress is caused by writing your wedding guest list, thinking about the long standing history of inequality in the wedding industry (ugh), or just from looking at too many Pinterest wedding photos and not knowing how to handle yourself, you may need to literally shake out the stress from your body. With this short sequence, you'll be shaking and dancing around spreading that energy elsewhere! Goodbye stress and hello world! 

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10 Things Every Entrepreneur Should Know Before They Start Their Small Business

10 Things Every Entrepreneur Should Know Before They Start Their Small Business

Starting your business is scary, and half the time even the most experience entrepreneurs feel like they have no idea what they're doing (**cough** me **cough**), but there are a few important things that I learned from my time in the corporate world that all entrepreneurs should consider when they first start out.

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Tulle & Fury // Being Woke Can Break You Down: How to Find the Balance

Tulle & Fury // Being Woke Can Break You Down: How to Find the Balance

We didn’t take our first breath of air in this world being the most radical, the most conscious, or the most woke. We got conditioned into believing a lot of harmful, untrue things. It takes some of us decades to unlearn those things, some even longer still, but it’s not a sudden result, it’s a process.

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Black BeauTEA Talk // Selfish Self Care

Black BeauTEA Talk // Selfish Self Care

I think that people have romanticized the idea of self care; we don’t talk about what it really means to take care of self. What I want you to do when thinking about self care is to keep in mind those things that you need so badly. This includes the physical, mental, emotional, and financial. What is it going to take you to get to the place you need to be in these areas?

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Thoughts from A Therapist // Mentally Healthy Holidays

Thoughts from A Therapist // Mentally Healthy Holidays

As a psychotherapist, this is one of the busiest times of year. Why? Because “The Holidays” bring up so many unrealistic expectations for many of us. We get depressed because we compare ourselves, our gifts and our families with what we think other people experience. We all imagine everyone else is having a lot more fun than we are.  

But honestly, we have no idea how happy or miserable anyone else is behind their façade. If you could sit in my chair and hear how unhappy most people are at this time of year, you’d stop envying them.

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30 Things I Learned by Age 30

30 Things I Learned by Age 30

Yesterday, I turned 30. It was something I had been anticipating for about a year and a half; it felt imperative that I make the time to reflect on my 20s in preparation for a new decade. In a way I was scared; I feared that I wouldn't be where I was "supposed" to be by 30, both in my career and personal life. Many people told me that fear was silly, but it was real to me. And then my birthday finally came, and my friends and family surprised me with a community yoga class, spontaneous musical performances, and a sleepover. As I sat in the middle of a chorus of "happy birthday" over the backdrop of babies fussing, I looked around me to see the open faces of my friends and family, and I realized I actually had more than I could have ever hoped for by age 30 — more love, more beautiful relationships, more joy than I ever imagined. As a kid, I really longed to be woven into the fabric of community, and here I am, relishing that sense of belonging.

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5 Self Care Tips for Feeling Your Best on Your Wedding Day

5 Self Care Tips for Feeling Your Best on Your Wedding Day

Planning and preparing for a wedding can be stressful. Start the process of alleviating your stress by identifying the sources.  There are two types of stress: eustress, which is positive and can be motivating, and distress, a negative source of anxiety. What is unnecessary and can be left behind, eradicated, or revamped? Create a to-do list, and delegate tasks to people that you trust, like your wedding party or coordinator who will help to disperse the load. Surround yourself with a positive support team that can help you to stay clear of unnecessary tension. Then begin implementing a daily routine like meditation and breathing techniques with a cup of herbal tea to start your day. This can create a moment for yourself and set the tone that will help you to feel grounded and ready to tackle what’s left on your to-do list.

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Wedding Inspiration // "Table For One" Self-Love Styled Shoot

Wedding Inspiration // "Table For One" Self-Love Styled Shoot

When planning a wedding, typically you do so without ever thinking you will virtually undo all of it. The endless coordination of vendors and schedules, guests and wedding party — there is an emotional investment in each of these phone calls, emails and appointments. They all become a part of this process leading to a day when you will pledge your life and love to another person. However, when the wedding is called off just weeks before the big day, and everything comes to a halt, you are left with...what exactly? I was not sure. It was a painful decision to make, but somehow I knew it was the right one for myself and my son.

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Autostraddle Stories // Self-Care is Political Warfare

Autostraddle Stories // Self-Care is Political Warfare

Just over a year ago, I finished a senior undergraduate honors thesis about self-care as an anti-capitalist act. As part of my thesis, I created and released a zine version of my outlined arguments, written in first person, with stories of my own experiences with depression as an activist. Ever since then, friends and acquaintances have looked to me as some sort of self-care expert, as though I must have it all figured out—after all, I spent a year spending about 50% of my waking hours thinking about self-care, didn’t I? Unfortunately, one of the (ironic) results of releasing this zine was that I now have difficulty being as honest about my mental health as I was before.

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Representation Matters // On Fat and Worth

Representation Matters // On Fat and Worth

Hi there, I'm Jaime and I'm fat! Pleased to meet you!

I'm sure if we met in person that's kind of how our first exchange would happen, only I wouldn’t have to verbalize my size. The space I take up is likely one of the first three things you’d notice about me. You'd notice my skin tone, my height—probably my winning smile—but first and foremost you’d notice my fatness.

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Dealing with Depression as an Entrepreneur

Dealing with Depression as an Entrepreneur

As an entrepreneur, I spend a lot of time alone. I also spend a lot of time on social media and on websites that do similar things to mine. On days like today, when I’m feeling a special kind of self-loathing and masochism, I like to troll the internet for everyone and everything that is doing better than me. Comparison is not necessarily the thief of my joy today, just my sanity. So, the downward spiral begins. Because I have so, so much to do, but I actually cannot get it done. So, rather than do what’s best and step away from work, I force myself to sit here.

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Roundup // 5 Engagement Gifts for Witchy Intentional Couples

Roundup // 5 Engagement Gifts for Witchy Intentional Couples

It's that time of year when people are more likely to make the decision to get engaged and start planning their wedding. Engagement gifts are becoming more and more common as a way to celebrate a couple's decision to dedicate themselves to each other, but the last thing anyone needs is an engagement gift that tries to assert outside opinions into their relationship and engagement. Throughout the month of December we will be sharing engagement gifts that will help couples celebrate, but will leave all that patriarchal traditional bullshit behind. First off, the idea engagement gifts that our woo-woo loving Creative Director, Jen, would pick out for herself if she could do it all again. 

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Keeping It Real With Herbal Heart Apothecary

Keeping It Real With Herbal Heart Apothecary

Meet Sarahkate, the creative mind behind Herbal Heart Apothecary (H2a) AND a lovely friend. We asked her what's going on with H2a, and she said, "The gardens are booming! We just harvested a ton of herbs today, so that's progress. I am currently working on sample products and getting our latest product on the market at H2a. We gutted and re-did the detached garage and turned it into a real manufacturing space. Other than that, planning to travel to meet my suppliers for olive oil, imported herbs, and so on." We want to come! 

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Let's Ditch the Diet

Let's Ditch the Diet

Some crazy, unhinged gentleman has asked for your hand in marriage. Your mother is beside herself with shock, and your father can't stop congratulating you. The guy you dated for two months in college is shaking his head in disbelief. Your best frenemy is crying tears she promises come from a happy place. This is not a time for grapes and fatfree yogurt. It is a time for whipping up an alcoholic milkshake, raising your glass to the sky, and enjoying wild sex with a man who worships your body as it is.

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